shonxminho:

———” Most submissive here are un-knowledgeable and untrained. Half of the fault goes to the dominates they surrender themselves too. Poor fools who don’t understand what it means to have someone give you control, to give you their life. They cower at the hard decisions, and think because they’re the master they can do what they want.

While the fault lies in these… dominates, the fault also rests within the submissive. You choose to be with your master and choose to give control to him. You’re supporting his behavior and letting yourself be trained by someone with no knowledge and no drive to get it. In turn you develop a sense of independence that a submissive should not have. It is in your fault for not learning and questioning. Reaching out and Researching. You know as little about what it means to be a submissive as this people do about being a dominant.

I am here to take the control you give me. To care for you, keep your trust satisfy your needs as you are satisfying mine. There are rules, punishments, lessons and rewards. I am not someone playing a dominate, I am a dominate. If you can’t handle it then don’t apply to be my pet because I do not hesitate and I’m confident in my decisions. I will not bend because you don’t like it I will reprimand. That is a true master, not you can choose to be my submissive and get a taste of the real thing, or go back to the fakers. Your choice.”

They are not even dominates, they are abusers–uneducated and cocky looking to push around and get someone to do anything they want. Most of these  submissive wo/men who think they’re looking for a dominate, [ wanting a little dirty talk and playful slapping,] need to look for a dominate partner instead.   They are two completely different things.

domwithpen:

And you make better decisions when you know you need my permission. Stop resisting; we are who we are. We’re not those vanilla couples.

You need permission.

You knew you did—you even texted to confess. So now you’ll get your spanking, and it will hurt, and you’ll get wet, because you’re biologically programmed to crave my Dominance.

I won’t hear any more about it.

Over my knee.

if you date me i will probably wake you up for sex at 4am

sorry

stares at drafts.

Sehun turns off the faucet, wiping his wet hands on a dry towel hanging over the oven handle behind him. He taps his fingertips along the light grey counter-top before he’s swiping his thumb over the pad of his laptop. It’s time to prep for the stew they’re going to make for dinner tonight. He’s not really good with the seafood part, so cutting and washing the vegetables are the least he could do. Bringing up the ingredient list, Sehun reads the first few off the line before heading over to the fridge to see what they have. Pulling out the veggies he needs from the crisper, he spreads them all out on the cutting board.

[text;]  Could you guys pick up some radish?  ;’)  Thaaank you, I think I have everything else.

Sliding his phone back into his back pocket, Sehun starts on the carrots first, –grateful for the few lessons he’s had so far when he’s able to peel without catching himself with the knife and start a nice slow chop. Smiling happily to himself he picks one up, a nice thickness between his fingers makes him excited for the mushrooms. Curling back the plastic bag they’re still in, he starts on them next–keeping them in a pile so that he doesn’t end up with them all over the floor like the last time he cut something with actual shape. The scallions are probably his favorite part of this, rinsing them and being able to see their bright fragrant green and even though they end up a little big , he thinks he did an okay job.

Putting the heavy pot on he stove he starts to grease it, swirling his cooking chopsticks until the entire pan is nicely oiled.  Tossing the bit of oiled paper away, he turns on the burner and tosses in the scallions, peppers and onions to fry.  Humming, he continues to prepare–hoping they get home soon with the fish and clams to make the broth in time for dinner. 

shonxminho:

Calling his pets to the hall from their bedroom’s he’d slip in hands in to his pockets making sure everyone was here and paying attention until he could continue. “Alright, I have to work on a big project so I’m going to be spending the next five or six hours in my office. Do not disturb me under any circumstances, do you understand? While I’m working make sure to get your chores done and dinner ready. Mi I know you plan on heading out shopping. I’ve left my card as a well as a small purse at the door for you to use, don’t forget your list this time, and take Hyeon with you. She needs to learn the area and where we put the food. Prepare yourselves for the schedule today, we’ll do what we can once I’m done. Alright… I’ll see you in a few hours.” His hand reaching out to gently pet the top of your heads before he’d turn and walk down the stairs. Closing the door to his office in only a matter of moments and beginning his work.

masterxwoobin:

A BDSM relationship is a two-way street as it is for most.

A common misconception is that BDSM relationships function almost as a parasitic relationship type: the Dominant provides, the submissive receives. Many uneducated submissives (and some godforsaken, poor Doms) are led to believe that the latter requires—or even deserves—less or none of the love and affection that would be given vice versa.

It is the submissive’s duty and promise to provide for any and all of the Dominant’s needs. Although a submissive’s job as a provider is not openly labeled in the BDSM community, their role is just as important—if not more—than the Dominant’s. Think of it like this: if the Dominant is a giant oak providing a child some shade on a sunny day, the submissive is the child, who in turn should provide for the oak by watering it. A giant tree, no matter how grand, withers without its fundamental care.

So, how then, does a submissive provide for their Dominant if not granting his/her Master’s sexual requests? Well, a Dominant is a Dominant not because he wants to bark orders at people, but because—deep inside—he wants to feel needed. Having a submissive to care, love, and provide for is his pillar of stability, and he needs to feel like he’s essential.

He wants to feel like the center of your universe. He wants to feel like he matters to you in more ways than physical, because just about anyone can do that if they tried. You have no idea how much power you hold over your own Dominant when, in fact, you are the one with the collar around your neck. Provide for him as he cares for you. Laying your head on his lap on a lazy afternoon or nuzzling against him unexpectedly goes a long way for Dominants who want nothing more than to feel like he’s needed.